Anonymous asked:

My boyfriend says he's going to break up with me if I don't sleep with him. What's the kindest way to tell him to shove it?

The Nerdy Elf Answer:

tumblingdoe:

ngjenkins:

edwardspoonhands:

Agreed. There is nothing wrong with wanting to sleep with someone. There IS something wrong with trying to pressure, blackmail, or shame someone into anything they’re not interested in, ready for, or opposed to. If your boyfriend is threatening to breakup with you, then smile and say, “bye!”

Well said gentlemen!

"If you look at the fact that you have a roof over your head, food to eat, that you are young and beautiful and live in a peaceful land, then no, you have nothing to be sad about. But the fact is, we are not only a physical body, we have souls too, and sometimes our souls get sick. If you break a leg you don’t just say ‘I have no reason to have a broken leg’ and ignore it; you seek help. It’s the same when your soul gets hurt. Don’t apologize for being sad."
- My doctor when I told her I had no reason to be sad (via getoffyourfeetandmakethiscount)

(Source: hrive-ithiliel, via jabbershire)

edwardspoonhands:

cochleandus:

i’m not saying anything but my absolute favorite hank videos are the

YOU ARE A HUMAN BEING AND THAT MAKES YOU STUPID AND DEPENDENT ON CULTURE AND SELFISH AND BIASED AND FLAWED BUT IT ALSO MAKES YOU UNIQUE AND CREATIVE AND FASCINATING AND MANY-SPLENDORED AND LOVABLE AND AWESOME

ones

Maybe me too…when I first realized how extremely dependent on and unseparatable from culture I was, I had something of a crisis. I knew the culture that had woven itself inextricably into me was messed up and broken and terrible. 

It took me a long time…like, around 10 years, to come to terms with it, and to understand that I could let it drown me or I learn to swim…learn to appreciate it and work with in it in a way that still allowed me to be proud of myself. If I can help people through that process more quickly than it was for me, then I’m winning.

Thanks for noticing.

And this why I study Anthropology.